Motivation Revisited – 3 steps to start working motivated!

I hope you all had an amazing start to 2017!

 I started my year by returning to university for the exam period, and I have to say that I wasn’t quite satisfied with my performance. I always thought of myself as a very hard-working and motivated person, but finally I had to realise that I’ve lost this motivation throughout the last year. So I thought that I would share my story with you and tell you how I managed to realise that something was wrong, what exactly happened to my motivation and how I got it back at the end. I hope that this helps you if you feel like you’re working hard but something’s still missing and you’re struggling to find motivation.

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  1. Are you working hard or motivated?

Probably the hardest and longest part of this process is when you still do what you’ve been doing before, you’re working hard every day, but something’s just wrong. You’re missing that extra bit, the cherry on top. You meet all your deadlines, you reach the minimum of the word counts, you get a decent mark but that’s all. You don’t go back to make your work any better, you don’t put in the extra effort to delete the weak paragraph and change it. When it’s done, it’s done. This is what I’ve been doing for so long, and I didn’t understand why I wasn’t satisfied with any of my assignments or the marks that I got for them. I still worked really hard on them, right?

A friend of mine kept telling me how she stays awake the whole night to finish her assignments, and I know that in most cases this is just a sign of time management issues, but I realised that I was envious of her motivation. I would never be able to do an all-nighter, because I simply don’t care that much. And I started thinking: Am I doing everything I possibly can to improve? Am I doing all this work just to be done with it, or to make it actually good? Am I actually as hard-working as I thought I was?

  1. What is your goal?

It is very difficult to realise that you’ve been working hard instead of working motivated. But once you’ve done that, you can start focusing on how to find your motivation again. The first thing you need to do is set a goal. Without a goal, there is no motivation. They’re in a symbiosis. This goal can be a promotion at work, getting into a good university, or just a better performance in what you do. The point is that it should be something that makes you excited. A good goal will give you butterflies in your stomach, and it will make you happy just thinking about it.

So what I’ve done is that I started thinking about what I want to do after graduation, and I searched for some masters degrees that I might be interested in. And then the same thing happened to me as when I found the description of my BA degree that I’m doing now, two years ago: I just knew that it was perfect for me, that it was “my thing.” I might not actually end up doing that exact course, because a lot can happen in the next two years, but I think this was definitely the biggest step towards finding my motivation again.

  1. Start the change!

Once you have your goal, you need a plan. What do you have to do to achieve it? Are you willing to do EVERYTHING it takes to get there? It will take time to get into it. This change will not happen in a day. You just need to commit to your goal, and then not give up. You need to get into that mind-set where you feel motivated and are able to do the extra bit. That particular cherry on top I was talking about before. You need to be humble, and accept that it takes effort. You will be tired. You will think about giving up. But what matters is that you will carry on, because you have a purpose. It always takes sacrifice to achieve your dreams.

I already started this change, even though it was too late for my exams. I couldn’t do all the extra effort that I was supposed to do over a semester, but I promised myself that I would do it in the next one. I owe myself that I do everything I possibly can to be a better version of me. It will be hard to have a job and study at the same time, but it’s not impossible. Nothing’s impossible with motivation!

I hope that this post inspired you and helped you in the process of finding your motivation. Don’t forget that it’s better to try and fail than fail to try. You owe yourself to do something you love, even if it’s hard to get there! Let me know in the comments what it is that you would like to achieve this year, I would love to hear it!

Xx

P.

 

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Morning Routine – At University

In this video I’m showing you what my morning routine looks like when I’m at university. I think it’s really important to have a nice morning routine that you enjoy doing, because it can put you in a good mood for the entire day, so I thought I would show you mine today. Let me know what yours looks like in the comments!

I always put on the radio while I’m getting ready, because some good songs and jokes always wake me up and make me happy. I always find myself laughing during the radio 1 breakfast show 🙂 My favourite part of getting ready is probably doing my makeup, because I love how confident it makes me feel. You can’t even imagine how much I care about matching my makeup and hair with my outfit, I am so busy thinking about this every morning that I basically forget to worry about university.

So after I do my morning routine I am ready to face the challenges of the day, or most of the time just ready to sit in the library then go to work… and live the fabulous life of a student you know.

Xx

P.

The University Tag

I feel like I haven’t really talked about university in my videos before, so now this was my opportunity! I really enjoyed making this video, so let me know what you think! Also if you want then answer some of the questions in the comments below and don’t hesitate to ask me if you have any questions!

Xx

P.

Dear Diary #1 – Going back to university

Dear Diary is going to be the most personal series on my blog. Writing a diary has always been very important to me, so I wanted to share a version of it with you. I really want my blog to be 100% real so I feel like it’s important that I share the things that I care about and show you what my life really is. So this series is going to be really casual, I’m going to pretend that I’m just writing my diary, and I hope that you will all like it.

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01.10.2016

Dear Diary,

I was planning my first post in this series to be a really nice and cheesy one about my adventures in the summer, how much fun I had and how amazing it is to go back to uni. But the truth is I don’t really feel that way anymore.

Yes, I did have an amazing summer – I went to visit one of my best friends in Croatia, who lives literally 2 minutes away from the beach, then I was lucky enough to introduce her to my home country. In September I had the opportunity to go to France for two weeks, and then I spent two more weeks at home in Hungary with my family and my friends. I consider myself really lucky and am grateful for everything that happened even though the summer was not only about sunshine and having fun. Whenever you are supposed to have the best time of your life something can always go wrong, anxiety can come into the picture or the people you love can disappoint you. This is just how life works and we all need to accept that.

I choose to remember only the positive parts of my journey and so I let go of the parts of the summer that I didn’t really enjoy. I made mistakes and I learned from them, I grew as a person, and now it’s time to move on. I am back in my home away from home – in England, and I wanted to tell you how I feel about it.

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During the travel and moving process I was feeling quite nervous for two reasons. Firstly, as an international student it is so difficult and stressful for me to move to university – who knows when my suitcases or boxes will disappear, or when my plane will be late and I miss my bus or I lose my wallet or my passport or ANYTHING. The second reason is that this time I didn’t actually want to leave Hungary. I had such a nice time at home, just chilling and watching TV shows with my little family. People have told me that it gets more and more difficult to leave home every year, but I never understood why. Now I realised that as time goes by, your visits at home will always get shorter because of work, and you will never spend as much time with your family as you used to, and you will never live at home again.

Last year it was completely different. It was sooo exciting not knowing the place where I would live for the next couple of years, and I didn’t fully process the thought that I would be completely alone in a foreign country. There was no point thinking about it – I knew that I just had to do it. When I arrived in England it was magical to explore a new town and get to know new people completely on my own. Don’t get me wrong, I was stressed out a lot, but it all happened so quickly that I didn’t have time to worry. Well, this year the magic has disappeared and all that was left for me was stress.

Fortunately everything went well on my way to England, I moved into my new room and it all seemed perfect. But it takes time for stress to go away, especially if you are at the beginning of an even more stressful period of time – like the second year of university, in my case.

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I want to concentrate on the positive side of things and appreciate what I have. So even if it has been a very stressful couple of days for me, I am still very happy to be back in England. I will never forget that coming here was a dream of mine that I managed to accomplish. To this day, whenever I start thinking about how lucky I am to be here I get butterflies in my stomach and start smiling by myself like an idiot. I am also very motivated to study what I am interested in, and basically just to make the most out of my time here. My ambition is what allowed me to come here and I know that it will also help me succeed in everything that I want to achieve in my life.

So I am looking forward to starting university and work next week; I am feeling so motivated and grateful to be in this position. Let’s work hard, let’s be positive, let’s do this!

So this was my first Dear Diary post, pure honesty and the real me. Not everything is perfect, but you always have to find some positivity and concentrate on that. I hope you have enjoyed a bit of insight into my life, and I hope you will like my Dear Diary posts in the future as well.

Xx

P.

How I learned to speak English + 10 Language Learning Tips!

Some of you have been asking me how I learned to speak English, so I decided to make this video to answer in more detail because I thought that it would be useful for those of you who are also learning a new language. So I also tried to sum up my top 10 language learning tips for you. Please don’t hesitate to let me know if you have any more questions, I would love to have a chat!

Xx

P.

My Language Learning Experience in France

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If you have seen my vlogs on YouTube, you probably know that recently I went to France for two weeks to do a language course. I also stayed with a French host family, which was definitely a great experience. So in this blog post I am going to talk about the whole language learning process that I went through in these two weeks. I thought it might be useful for some of you who want to learn a language and go to the country where it’s spoken. If you have any questions, please let me know in the comments, I would be happy to help you and give you some more details.

So the reason this whole trip was possible, is my university. I study 3 languages and one of them is French, which I started from beginner’s level last year. I took an accelerated course, which means that I jumped two language stages in a year. The pace of this course was really fast, and I enjoyed it a lot because it was challenging. I always like to learn languages as quickly as possible, but it also means that I didn’t have the chance to fully process my knowledge. I know it is completely normal to not be able to speak much after learning a language for only a year, but I always felt behind everyone else in my class. So when we were told about the opportunity of coming to France for two weeks I got very excited, because I knew that it would help me get more comfortable with the language.

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Honestly, I didn’t practice at all during the summer before going to France. I kind of forgot many things that I’ve learned at university, mostly the grammar. I was terrified before going even though I knew that I will learn a lot in France. The first couple of days were actually okay. I didn’t really speak much, just a couple of words with the host family. They told me I would speak fluently after two weeks, and I believed them. We started going to a language school every day from 10am to 1pm, and it was difficult, but I thought I can deal with it. Basically I just thought that I would magically learn to speak French in a couple days, but it didn’t happen that way.

The B1 level language course turned out to be way too difficult for me, as I ended up just looking around in silence when I was supposed to be working. I didn’t understand anything from the tasks I was given, and I just wanted to revise all the grammar that I forgot. So we talked to the teacher and we were put in a different group at A2 level. And it was so much better! We learned a lot of vocabulary that I could actually use outside of the class, and revised some parts of grammar that I have never been really sure about. The teacher was an elegant French woman, very fashionable and confident; her lessons were really cool and enjoyable. When I went home in the afternoon, I did the homework while listening to music and I just really enjoyed the course.

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The communication with my host family, on the other hand, did not go very well. Because they told me that I would speak after a while, it kind of became a pressure on me. I thought that if I was supposed to be talking, why can’t I still talk? My anxiety came into the picture and then it was just done. I refused to speak, except for the occasional Bonjour and Merci. They probably thought that I was rude, but really I felt like there was a wall in front of me that prevented me from speaking in French. And I didn’t manage to make it disappear.

Let’s just concentrate on the positive side of things, though! I was able to order food in restaurants in French (at least when I could be bothered to make an effort). I definitely got more comfortable with the language. After a while it became normal to hear French words on the streets and saying Bonjour to everyone. I really enjoyed being in France, and it gave me motivation to study. After this, I will definitely make extra efforts during my second year at university.

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If you want to learn a language quickly, I would definitely recommend visiting the country where it’s spoken. I definitely learned a lot, and it’s very important to be surrounded by the language for a while. And the fact that I didn’t really speak much doesn’t bother me at all, because I know that I just need a bit more time and practise. I will definitely get there one day! French is not one of the easiest languages.

What about you? What are your experiences with language learning? How did you come over your difficulties? Let me know in the comments, I would love to have a chat about it!

Xx

P.

5 reasons to get excited for back to school!

It’s that time of the year again. The one when everywhere you go and everywhere you look online, you see the most annoying three words: BACK TO SCHOOL.

I know. It’s the most terrifying thing for all students, whether you go to high school or university. Doing all that homework, dealing with all that responsibility, being overwhelmed with all the deadlines and exams… it’s coming closer and closer. And on top of that, you are reminded of this every single day. Now, instead of getting annoyed in supermarkets because they are full of cheap stationery and getting fed up with all the back to school videos on YouTube, I decided to try to find my own positive side of this and only concentrate on that part. I always say that there is already too much negativity in the world, so whenever you have the possibility, do share your positive thoughts! So that’s exactly what I am going to do today.

I collected my top 5 favourite things about going back to school, and I want to make all of you as excited as I am for these things. Without further ado, let’s get started!

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1. New stationery

I don’t know about you, but my favourite thing about going back to school is the new stationery. The first shops I head to when I get back to England will definitely be Paperchase and WH Smith. Cute little notebooks and colourful pens always make me excited to start studying, and let’s be honest: you are more likely to start studying if you have nice and new stationery that you absolutely love. Freshen up your desk area every year and make it look exactly how you want it. You can put motivational quotes on the wall or organise your pen collection into cute little mugs. Get creative! If you can’t really afford a huge Paperchase shopping spree then come up with your own DIY notebooks! There are lots of amazing ideas on YouTube and blogs where you can get inspired.

2. Being organized

Probably most of us tend to throw away our normal weekday schedules during the summer. Why would you go to bed early, if you don’t have to wake up before 10 in the morning? And before you realise, your new schedule includes staying up until 3am and having lunch instead of breakfast. Also, if you don’t go anywhere during the day, why would you only get dressed to go to the gym? For me, back to school means getting organized with my daily routine again. Having a timetable that you need to adjust to means that you need to fit all of your activities into a set amount of time, which makes you procrastinate less and concentrate more on your work. Even though my second year at university is going to be really challenging, I can’t wait to organise my daily schedules, write to-do lists and just get things done in general. I am going to work this year as well, which means I have to start all of my assignments on time, instead of spending 2-3 full days working on them before the deadline.

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3. Socialising

To be fair, this is not my favourite one. But I tend to kind of hide during the summer, and not see anyone except my family for weeks. And even if I’m a shy and quiet person, I miss seeing my university friends, and just being surrounded by people in general. Going back to uni is also a great opportunity to start with a fresh page and make new friends. Because I study English as a foreign language, my class usually only consists of international students from all over the world, which is a very exciting opportunity to get to know different people. There are also many events at the university where you can get to know new people. Go to new societies, or join the gym! I have the feeling that we should all take advantage of the many amazing opportunities that universities have to offer.

4. New dorm room

I am probably the most excited for my new and empty dorm room, which is basically like a fresh canvas for me that I can fill in and make pretty. I love decorating my room, I think I am definitely more likely to enjoy university if I have my own little comfy space. This year I really want to make it feel warm and cosy with fairy lights, photos on the wall and nice colourful bed sheets. I also want to organise my makeup collection better. I basically gave this mission to myself to make my room the best one I’ve ever had! I am already planning every single detail and looking at stuff on Amazon for my room. If you love decorating your room like me, definitely do spend some time before arriving just planning everything and buying some things in advance. Also watch a lot of “dorm room tour” videos on YouTube, because they really make you inspired and give you some amazing ideas that you might not come up with by yourself. Having your own space that looks exactly how you like it will make you feel at home during term time.

(I am working on a “dorm room decoration ideas” video, so if you’re interested then subscribe to my channel on YouTube!)

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5. Starting with a fresh page

Whether we’re talking about friendships, new rooms or university work, the start of a new year always means a fresh page. Think about your last year: what did you like about it and what did you not like about it? If there was anything you didn’t enjoy, then change it this year! If you feel like you don’t have enough friends, then go out more! If you were not satisfied with your grades at school, then make a resolution to work harder this year! Whatever it is that you didn’t love about your last year, I’m sure there is a way to change it. Remember to always do what makes you happy, live in the way you want to and don’t be afraid to change. I know it can be difficult sometimes, but always try to find the positive side of things. Do your best to make yourself happy this year! J

What about you? What makes you the most excited about going back to school? How are you going to decorate your dorm room? Please let me know in the comments, I would love to read your answers!

Thank you for reading my blog post, and I will talk to you next time!

Xx

P.