Motivation Revisited – 3 steps to start working motivated!

I hope you all had an amazing start to 2017!

 I started my year by returning to university for the exam period, and I have to say that I wasn’t quite satisfied with my performance. I always thought of myself as a very hard-working and motivated person, but finally I had to realise that I’ve lost this motivation throughout the last year. So I thought that I would share my story with you and tell you how I managed to realise that something was wrong, what exactly happened to my motivation and how I got it back at the end. I hope that this helps you if you feel like you’re working hard but something’s still missing and you’re struggling to find motivation.

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  1. Are you working hard or motivated?

Probably the hardest and longest part of this process is when you still do what you’ve been doing before, you’re working hard every day, but something’s just wrong. You’re missing that extra bit, the cherry on top. You meet all your deadlines, you reach the minimum of the word counts, you get a decent mark but that’s all. You don’t go back to make your work any better, you don’t put in the extra effort to delete the weak paragraph and change it. When it’s done, it’s done. This is what I’ve been doing for so long, and I didn’t understand why I wasn’t satisfied with any of my assignments or the marks that I got for them. I still worked really hard on them, right?

A friend of mine kept telling me how she stays awake the whole night to finish her assignments, and I know that in most cases this is just a sign of time management issues, but I realised that I was envious of her motivation. I would never be able to do an all-nighter, because I simply don’t care that much. And I started thinking: Am I doing everything I possibly can to improve? Am I doing all this work just to be done with it, or to make it actually good? Am I actually as hard-working as I thought I was?

  1. What is your goal?

It is very difficult to realise that you’ve been working hard instead of working motivated. But once you’ve done that, you can start focusing on how to find your motivation again. The first thing you need to do is set a goal. Without a goal, there is no motivation. They’re in a symbiosis. This goal can be a promotion at work, getting into a good university, or just a better performance in what you do. The point is that it should be something that makes you excited. A good goal will give you butterflies in your stomach, and it will make you happy just thinking about it.

So what I’ve done is that I started thinking about what I want to do after graduation, and I searched for some masters degrees that I might be interested in. And then the same thing happened to me as when I found the description of my BA degree that I’m doing now, two years ago: I just knew that it was perfect for me, that it was “my thing.” I might not actually end up doing that exact course, because a lot can happen in the next two years, but I think this was definitely the biggest step towards finding my motivation again.

  1. Start the change!

Once you have your goal, you need a plan. What do you have to do to achieve it? Are you willing to do EVERYTHING it takes to get there? It will take time to get into it. This change will not happen in a day. You just need to commit to your goal, and then not give up. You need to get into that mind-set where you feel motivated and are able to do the extra bit. That particular cherry on top I was talking about before. You need to be humble, and accept that it takes effort. You will be tired. You will think about giving up. But what matters is that you will carry on, because you have a purpose. It always takes sacrifice to achieve your dreams.

I already started this change, even though it was too late for my exams. I couldn’t do all the extra effort that I was supposed to do over a semester, but I promised myself that I would do it in the next one. I owe myself that I do everything I possibly can to be a better version of me. It will be hard to have a job and study at the same time, but it’s not impossible. Nothing’s impossible with motivation!

I hope that this post inspired you and helped you in the process of finding your motivation. Don’t forget that it’s better to try and fail than fail to try. You owe yourself to do something you love, even if it’s hard to get there! Let me know in the comments what it is that you would like to achieve this year, I would love to hear it!

Xx

P.

 

Pieces of Inspiration #3

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The third part of the Pieces of Inspiration series is finally here! Obviously these are very personal posts, as I write all the quotes about my own thoughts, emotions and experiences. But this blog is exactly for sharing these things, for sharing a bit of my life, and I hope that this will help some of you. Enjoy!

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“If you ever feel hopeless, know that one day is enough to change everything. Change can happen when you least expect it. Believe me. Believe that one day, it will happen.”

“Surround yourself with people who love you, support you and believe in you. It might take a while to find them, but it will be worth the wait. You might have to be alone for a bit, but when it’s the right time the people who belong in your life will come. And stay.”

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 “The best things always happen when you finally decide to take a step out of your comfort zone. I know it is terrifying. But it is definitely worth it. Be brave, be confident, be you!”

“A true best friend will never hurt you, judge you, or make you cry. A true best friend will accept you for who you are, love you with your imperfections and help you through the hardest times. They are not meant to make your life any more difficult. They are meant to make it better, and this is why you must choose your friends carefully. If you give more than what you get, eventually you will end up being empty.”

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“And after a couple of years, you will realise that some people will never change. They will always stay the way that they are. And every time you start to have hope, they will crash it over and over again. Some people will only disappoint you. And it’s not worth it.”

“Don’t wait for support from other people. The only person whose support you need to achieve your dreams is YOU.”

“Be nice to those who are nice to you. Spread love with every word you say, appreciate every smile you get in response. There is more than enough negativity in the world, and you have to do everything you can to make a change, however small it is.”

 

Pieces of Inspiration #2

The time has come for the second post in my Pieces of Inspiration series. I have to say though, that most of these thoughts weren’t inspired by happiness. Some of them were written in my worst moments, when I was upset and hurt. And some of them are reflecting how my motivation and confidence managed to come through to the surface. It is definitely very personal, but probably some of you will relate. So I hope you enjoy this post!

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“Sometimes you need to break in order to build yourself up again. And sometimes you need to be left alone to find the people who belong in your life.”

“Care about yourself enough to walk away from anything that doesn’t build you, nurture you, or make you happy. You have the right to do what’s best for you. Don’t stay if you’re hurting. You don’t owe an explanation. You only owe yourself to do everything you can to be happy.”

“Leaving is a form of art. And I’ve left enough times to master it. How to say goodbye without hurting, how to get on a plane without feeling guilt and how to walk away without looking back. Because when you’re in the air, above the clouds, there is no way back. You need to leave in the appropriate way to be able to let go. Because if you don’t… you will never be free.”

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“A best friend is not necessarily someone you spend all your time with. It can be someone you rarely see. Because they are always with you in your heart. You can feel their love from a thousand miles away. The thought that there is someone who accepts you and loves you no matter what, is more than enough.”

“Sometimes you will be hurt by the people whose love you need the most.”

“Forgive yourself for making mistakes. They only prove that you are human. And they make you learn, they make you grow as a person.”

“Not everyone will believe that the path you have chosen to follow is the right one. Some people will try to get in your way and stop you. They will never really believe in you. So you have to believe in yourself.”

 

Dear Diary #1 – Going back to university

Dear Diary is going to be the most personal series on my blog. Writing a diary has always been very important to me, so I wanted to share a version of it with you. I really want my blog to be 100% real so I feel like it’s important that I share the things that I care about and show you what my life really is. So this series is going to be really casual, I’m going to pretend that I’m just writing my diary, and I hope that you will all like it.

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01.10.2016

Dear Diary,

I was planning my first post in this series to be a really nice and cheesy one about my adventures in the summer, how much fun I had and how amazing it is to go back to uni. But the truth is I don’t really feel that way anymore.

Yes, I did have an amazing summer – I went to visit one of my best friends in Croatia, who lives literally 2 minutes away from the beach, then I was lucky enough to introduce her to my home country. In September I had the opportunity to go to France for two weeks, and then I spent two more weeks at home in Hungary with my family and my friends. I consider myself really lucky and am grateful for everything that happened even though the summer was not only about sunshine and having fun. Whenever you are supposed to have the best time of your life something can always go wrong, anxiety can come into the picture or the people you love can disappoint you. This is just how life works and we all need to accept that.

I choose to remember only the positive parts of my journey and so I let go of the parts of the summer that I didn’t really enjoy. I made mistakes and I learned from them, I grew as a person, and now it’s time to move on. I am back in my home away from home – in England, and I wanted to tell you how I feel about it.

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During the travel and moving process I was feeling quite nervous for two reasons. Firstly, as an international student it is so difficult and stressful for me to move to university – who knows when my suitcases or boxes will disappear, or when my plane will be late and I miss my bus or I lose my wallet or my passport or ANYTHING. The second reason is that this time I didn’t actually want to leave Hungary. I had such a nice time at home, just chilling and watching TV shows with my little family. People have told me that it gets more and more difficult to leave home every year, but I never understood why. Now I realised that as time goes by, your visits at home will always get shorter because of work, and you will never spend as much time with your family as you used to, and you will never live at home again.

Last year it was completely different. It was sooo exciting not knowing the place where I would live for the next couple of years, and I didn’t fully process the thought that I would be completely alone in a foreign country. There was no point thinking about it – I knew that I just had to do it. When I arrived in England it was magical to explore a new town and get to know new people completely on my own. Don’t get me wrong, I was stressed out a lot, but it all happened so quickly that I didn’t have time to worry. Well, this year the magic has disappeared and all that was left for me was stress.

Fortunately everything went well on my way to England, I moved into my new room and it all seemed perfect. But it takes time for stress to go away, especially if you are at the beginning of an even more stressful period of time – like the second year of university, in my case.

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I want to concentrate on the positive side of things and appreciate what I have. So even if it has been a very stressful couple of days for me, I am still very happy to be back in England. I will never forget that coming here was a dream of mine that I managed to accomplish. To this day, whenever I start thinking about how lucky I am to be here I get butterflies in my stomach and start smiling by myself like an idiot. I am also very motivated to study what I am interested in, and basically just to make the most out of my time here. My ambition is what allowed me to come here and I know that it will also help me succeed in everything that I want to achieve in my life.

So I am looking forward to starting university and work next week; I am feeling so motivated and grateful to be in this position. Let’s work hard, let’s be positive, let’s do this!

So this was my first Dear Diary post, pure honesty and the real me. Not everything is perfect, but you always have to find some positivity and concentrate on that. I hope you have enjoyed a bit of insight into my life, and I hope you will like my Dear Diary posts in the future as well.

Xx

P.